I'd been single for a long time and when my ex, we'll call him "Ronni" came along, I was more than happy to throw myself into the relationship. We met on a dating site, I won't say the name. He lived closed to my area and he seemed like an easygoing kind of guy. We talked online and on webcam for a few weeks, then decided to exchange numbers. It was like we were meant to be together. He could finish my sentences and it seemed like we were always on the same page. Life was good. We decided to meet in person and when we did, I was so excited. I found myself jumping into his waiting arms and kissing him.
Things went great for a few months. I no longer felt empty and all alone. I had someone to give all my love and affection. It was a few weeks before Thanksgiving when everything hit the fan. I was working on a deadline. I had to finished a research assignment and "Ronnie" seemed to have been obsessed with the idea of me coming over. I told him repeatedly that I was working. He didn't believe me. So he asked me to turn on the webcam and I did. He sat there watching me as I worked on my paper. He flipped out and said that I was ignoring him. I felt like the walls were closing in. I had no idea where my loving and understanding guy had gone. I was dealing with a complete stranger. He gave me an ultimatum...he said that it was either the paper or him. I told him that we needed a break from each other. He went crazy. I had never seen him like that. I closed my webcam and tried to finish my paper. He then proceeded to blowup my phone.
In the end, we broke up. As it turns out, he was on medication and was going through a bout of depression. I'd gone into the relationship because I wanted someone to fill the void in my life. I never thought that he might have needed that same support system. I hadn't
delved deep enough. I should have asked more questions. He needed someone that would be strong enough to handle everything that his depression would through at them. I just wasn't that person.
Things went great for a few months. I no longer felt empty and all alone. I had someone to give all my love and affection. It was a few weeks before Thanksgiving when everything hit the fan. I was working on a deadline. I had to finished a research assignment and "Ronnie" seemed to have been obsessed with the idea of me coming over. I told him repeatedly that I was working. He didn't believe me. So he asked me to turn on the webcam and I did. He sat there watching me as I worked on my paper. He flipped out and said that I was ignoring him. I felt like the walls were closing in. I had no idea where my loving and understanding guy had gone. I was dealing with a complete stranger. He gave me an ultimatum...he said that it was either the paper or him. I told him that we needed a break from each other. He went crazy. I had never seen him like that. I closed my webcam and tried to finish my paper. He then proceeded to blowup my phone.
In the end, we broke up. As it turns out, he was on medication and was going through a bout of depression. I'd gone into the relationship because I wanted someone to fill the void in my life. I never thought that he might have needed that same support system. I hadn't
delved deep enough. I should have asked more questions. He needed someone that would be strong enough to handle everything that his depression would through at them. I just wasn't that person.
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